Dissolving Personality Exercises

1. Stop talking about the past. Each time you hear yourself indulging in this, stop. Be extreme to break the habit. Stop talking about your sad story. Stop talking about it is the beginning of stop thinking about it.

2. Be true to the situation, not to your personal likes and dislikes. What does the situation require? It may not be what suits you personally. The personality wants you to express your dislike of a situation. Either do what the situation requires, or quit. No negativity.

3. Give up being dishonest. Anytime you are angry, resentful or depressed, you are not being honest. Anger arises because you are not getting your own way. Instead of being angry you should be concerned with which practical action you can take. If there is no practical action you can take, your desire is impractical at this time. To be honest you must face that fact and give up your wanting.

4. Don't talk unless you have something to say. The personality is always talking. Talking consumes enormous energy so this exercise is to learn to talk less. Talking is talking about something, having a discussion, giving your opinion, speculating, rationalizing, and repeating what youve heard. In this exercise you learn the difference between talking and speaking. Instead of talking about what the politicians should do unless you yourself are doing something to right the situation, you can write them, or cast your vote, then youll be taking action and able to speak form your experience, otherwise your a talker, only action or speaking what you live is true.

5. No more complaining or blaming. Complaining about your life and blaming other people and life for your problems and difficulties is one of the major leakages of energy. When you catch yourself doing this, stop. The truth is you are responsible for your life. If you blame someone for your life you are giving up responsibilty by giving responsibility to others. To be responsible is to be responsible for everything that happens in your life. There may be things that happen that seem to come from other agencies but you'll have to do your best to sort them out, thats life. You don't complain when you get a promotion at work do you? You don't blame the boss, you feel you deserved it, so how can you duck out from being responsible for all the not so good things that happen to you. Its the personality being two faced, not being straight. It presents life as its not, and gets away with it while you continue to blame and complain.

6. Don't allow your fingers to fiddle with a pencil or other knick knack. Don't drum your fingers on the table. Don't when seated quiver or tremble your leg. Don't crack your knuckles.

7. Don't chew gum, unless you chew it to get the flavor and freshen the mouth, then spit it out. Don't lick your fingers after touching food. Don't ask for tasting form other peoples plate, either go half and half or order something for yourself. That is the personalities greed and craving for experience not being responsible for what it wants.

8. Don't fidget when talking to people.

9. Conversational habits. Remembering that the personality depends upon habitual un consciousness. Stop using habitual expressions like honey, sweetheart, dude, dawg. Don't use such terms. Don't soothe people with words when you are about to confess something bad. Don't say "To be honest", or "with all due respect" as if you are not usually honest or respectful. Such phrases have no real menaing and are actually the personality talking.

10.Don't frown, screw up your face, or look at the ceiling before you answer a question. This is the personality pretending to appear deep in thought. Don't say things like "hmmmmm" These serve no purpose and waste vital energy

Barry Long.